• Dyskolos
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    81 month ago

    Since the dawn of gaming I always picked the more aesthetic choice, which mostly is the female choice. Never cared about the “u play woman? U gay!” Idiots…

    • @Prok@lemmy.world
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      61 month ago

      I never understood how me preferring to look at a female figure while playing a game was ever something to question…

      • Dyskolos
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        11 month ago

        Easy! drumroll It is still drumrolling Toxic Masculinity! Those that fear to become gay after a prostate-exam :-)

    • @Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online
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      “u play woman? U gay!”

      Those people are stupid, playing a woman isn’t a sign of being gay, it’s a sign of being trans. There’s nothing wrong with either, it’s perfectly natural to be gay or trans. I’m a Pan trans girl. You should really look into that by the way, there’s a significant chance you might be a trans girl.

      Edit: Check out !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone and !traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@lemmy.ca and see if you relate to the memes there.

    • @crimsonpoodle@pawb.social
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      11 month ago

      I think both are valid you know? If you want to just make a cool looking character or go for some aesthetic then do it, but people (such as my sister) I think get a certain excitement from envisioning themselves casting spells etc.

  • @kronarbob@lemmy.world
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    51 month ago

    Listen to “lady of the dark” from Sabaton, you’ll automatically create a woman character named Milunka whatever gender you are.

    You’ll be fully immersed and you’ll feel Serbian even if you’re from another country !

    • @Shiggles@sh.itjust.works
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      171 month ago

      “Everyone that has ever even thought about roleplaying as a different gender is secretly closeted trans” is one of my least favorite takes of all time.

      Gender is bullshit! Try shit! It’s a perfectly healthy and normal thing everyone should be comfortable with, don’t make it into a thing.

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        Gender is bullshit! Try shit!

        isn’t that the entire point though? if you consistently like doing this, you might not be what you think you are, and thats ok too.

        • @Shiggles@sh.itjust.works
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          21 month ago

          It’s entirely possible, but that’s something for every individual to find out for themselves. You can be a confidently cis dude and find it enjoyable to have a female avatar, correlation == causation.

          • @jsomae@lemmy.ml
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            11 month ago

            correlation vs causation is irrelevant. The important thing is that there are no absolutes.

        • Prince Aster [He/They/Zir]
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          31 month ago

          No, I dress very feminine and sometimes play girls in games as well, but I’m not a girl, I’m a transmasc. I know for sure I’m trans also, there isn’t a shred of doubt in my mind. I utterly hate so many things about being AFAB, especially my periods (those cause crippling dysphoria for me 😔 ).

      • Gender is not bullshit, gender is real and trans people are real. Stop spreading stupid anti-trans rhetoric. People who feel and express a certain gender are more likely to be that gender, even if that gender doesn’t align with their assigned gender at birth.

        • @Shiggles@sh.itjust.works
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          “me not being able to label anyone that breathes funny as a closeted trans person is anti-trans rhetoric” is certainly one of the takes of all time.

          It’s the exact same shit as “teehee they’re intelligent they must be autistic” or “oh you organize your socks you must have adhd/ocd”. It’s not suddenly okay to assume shit about people when it’s that they’re not cis/neurotypical.

          Gender is whatever the fuck any individual wants it to be for them. I like how that other commentor described it, gender anarchy.

          • Being trans isn’t a choice and our society already stigmatizes being trans so people deny it or won’t accept it and make up dumb excuses to not accept the fact they are a trans girl. But people need to come out because being closeted isn’t healthy, and the sooner the better. Why are you so against trans people coming out and accepting themselves as trans?

            • @Shiggles@sh.itjust.works
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              41 month ago

              People can do whatever the fuck they want, to themselves. You don’t get to tell them what they are or aren’t. There is nothing different between calling a stranger an egg and telling someone you don’t believe they’re really trans.

              Anyways, this conversation will clearly never go anywhere productive. I hope your real world day goes better.

              • No, there is a big difference between trying to help someone discover themselves and denying a person’s gender identity. To argue that they are the same is Transphobic TERF garbage meant to spread the idea that being trans is wrong or abnormal.

                You are right to acknowledge that this will never be productive. Arguing with TERFs rarely is.

      • @wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        91 month ago

        Yeah, this sort of shit has gotten under my skin since identity stuff started exploding into public discourse.

        If gender is a construct, why the fuck are we still using traditionally masculine and feminine actions/interests to prescribe identity? What gives anyone the right to prescribe someone else’s identity?

          • @Shiggles@sh.itjust.works
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            Is this the rare non-binary hating but trans supportive individual? I don’t get it.

            Gender being a construct doesn’t mean you can’t willingly put yourself into that pre constructed idea, you can be whatever you like. It’s prescribing it to others that’s fucked up.

            Regardless, nobody as angry as you has ever convinced anyone of anything, nor will anyone ever convince you of anything. I’m sure the world is harsh towards you, and I’m sorry you feel the need to match that energy.

            • Who said I hate Nonbinary people? Nonbinary people are trans you idiot, it’s an expression of transness. People who express themselves in ways that don’t align with their assigned gender at birth are more likely to be trans in some way. And no it’s not wrong to try and help them understand themselves. There’s a lot of internalized transphobia and the assumption that cisgender is the default is strong and can prevent people from discovering themselves, therefore they need a lot of help to overcome those obstacles. That’s not bad mean or fucked up, that’s called being trans supportive, why don’t you try it for a change.

            • @wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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              21 month ago

              Gender being a construct doesn’t mean you can’t willingly put yourself into that pre constructed idea, you can be whatever you like. It’s prescribing it to others that’s fucked up.

              Thank you. That was the point I was trying to make. Anyone can be whatever they want. Categorizing others is the problem, and one that feels especially wrong for me to keep seeing come from the LGBTQIA+ and ally/adjacent communities (please don’t nitpick me on terminology here, my point is that it seems to be coming from the people who I would expect to be better about this than other groups).

  • Realitätsverlust
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    71 month ago

    As someone who played korean MMOs for most of his youth, women were the only choice as every male skin looked like he’s wearing painted cardboard lmao.

      • @BeNotAfraid@lemmy.ml
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        01 month ago

        It’s a psyop, don’t take it seriously. Even now, rhetoric is being sowed across online platforms to fuel the non-existent culture war. Just a distraction from the billionaires actively overthrowing democracy using the global surveillance networks of Google, Meta, Amazon and X. Collect all the information if everyone in the world, create AI in order to be able to search and use that data against anyone who poses a threat. That’s what it’s all been about, don’t get distracted by it.

  • apotheotic (she/her)
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    111 month ago

    Exactly! The fact I’m taking oestrogen and wearing pretty clothes is totally unrelated. Still cis BTW.

  • @NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone
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    11 month ago

    A lot of male characters in games kind of look like they’re compensating for something. I’ll play any character type though - like the variety.

    • @Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      21 month ago

      I agree that voice is what matters, but I feel that femshep is way better than male shep. Agreed on V, though.

    • @Nalivai@lemmy.world
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      41 month ago

      Female V has such an amazing voice oh my god. Not like every other voice actor in the game isn’t an absolute genius, but man does she hits the mark all the time