Mine hit me with the “We’re spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

  • vanta rainbow black
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    yeah. the majority of stuff they’d say was like that, in fact. it’s part of why i don’t talk to them anymore lol

  • @IndieGoblin@lemmy.4d2.org
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    Yeah my dad has said so many things that have left me stunned. I have had to explain tax brackets to this man so many fucking times. He keeps thinking if he goes up a bracket the overall tax % will increase and therefore he will actually have less money.

  • @HootinNHollerin@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    My grandparents came to the US from Germany. Upon hearing my dad say black people that don’t like trumps (1.0) America should go back to Africa, i reminded him that most of them are way more American than we are. I could hear his brain break through the phone

  • @HellsBelle@sh.itjust.works
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    Two weeks after I explained to my father why I had an abortion … and he calmly said he understood my reasons … he told me I’d murdered his grandchild.

    He was a real winner, my dad.

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      I’m so sorry he responded like that, he’s not the one who would have carried, birthed, and raised that child. I hope you’re doing okay and are at peace with the decision you made.

    • you are pathetic
    • you make me want to vomit
    • you are disgusting
    • you are a disloyal, condescending asshole
    • you are sickening
    • I can’t wait until I no longer have to be around you

    Borderline Personality Disorder is not a ride I ever asked to be on.

  • @joytoy@feddit.nl
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    The monster that raised me was a real piece of work.

    Context: she adopted me and 3 others. The other 3 were adopted when she was a single parent.

    • “I didn’t want you. <ex husband> did.”
    • “Stick to your own kind.” (In front of my mixed-ethnicity siblings, when I introduced a girl I was seeing to her)
    • ”Ain’t no son of mine is going to be a <slur>” (all 3 of my siblings had developmental disorders, I only asked to be tested)
    • “I don’t want that <homophobic slur> in my house no more, I don’t want AIDS”
    • “If you really hate me that much go back to your whore mother, she didn’t want you either”
    • ”Nobody wants you, I don’t even want you.” (She used this one a lot)
    • ”Where would you be if I didn’t take you in?” (Also used this one a lot)
    • ”Read. My. Lips.” (I had moderate to severe hearing loss back then, and she refused to learn sign language. She would also get right in my face when she did that)
    • ”You a <homophobic slur> now?” (When I pierced both of my ears)
    • ”If you move out don’t ever come back, don’t call me, don’t talk to me, don’t ask me for diggity shit”

    That last one was fun. I met my partner and snuck out in the middle of the night to fly across the world just to get away from her. She reported me as kidnapped multiple times even after I contacted the detectives AND her to let her know I was only following instructions. Then she denied she ever said that. That was the last time I spoke to her, over a decade ago.

    I’m in therapy twice a week for the past few years, was recently diagnosed with adhd and autism, and non-binary transfem. My partner is Indonesian. She can rot in piss.

  • @RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world
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    My dad said various things about “dirty Mexicans”, eugenic stuff about black people or people with severe mental handicaps, and always had some offhand extreme solution for non-conformists who rocked the boat.

    He kept it mostly under wraps when I was younger, but as he got older and the Fox News worm ate into his and his social circle’s brains it started leaking out a lot more.

    Being sent off to “military school” was an occasional threat. Like that was going to magically fix things.

  • @LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works
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    Reading this makes me realize how many people had really fucked up childhoods. I feel sorry for all of you, don’t give up hope for humanity, and choose (if you can) how to live your own life. There are better people out there.

  • @Grizzlyboy@lemmy.zip
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    The money thing is such a fucked up thing to say. “Do you know how much money you cost?!” As if the price of raising children is something a 6 yo is responsible for!

    If I was gay I’d have to be lobotomized, not would or could, I’d have to be… and he’d do it himself. 10 yo and wanted my dad dead.

    And the insane gaslighting! He’d stink of cigarettes, reeeeek! Clearly he’d been smoking, but would deny it with the shittiest lies: person X blew smoke in my face! I walked past someone who smoked!

    Or when I got a bicycle, dad would guilt trip me af for having spent money on it. And whenever I couldn’t cycle, meaning it would take 10 yo me an hour to get there (20ish KM), he’d be fuming and say he’d sell the bike since I’m not using it…

    I’m firmly a believer that having children shouldn’t be allowed for everyone. Some people are terrible and should be sterilized and enslaved. I just don’t know how to implement it, yet!

    • @Ledericas@lemm.ee
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      from what the op description is saying, basically the parents think its transactional investment, so they expect to be repaid in full or more in the future. im suspecting they are saying it so they can ask for free money down the line to pay thier own mismanaged finances, or they will ask op to “retire” them by living with OP rent free.

  • @Xella@lemmy.world
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    My step father told me about the time he told my biological father that he had slept with my mom.

    I was a small child and we were all living in a house together, my mom, biological father and step father(my bio dads bff at the time). Step father took my bio father out and told him what they had done. My bio father was so happy to hear the news he shook my step father’s hand and thanked him profusely. He then proceeded to tell my step father how he wanted to burn the house down with me and my mom in it so this is the best news he could possibly get.

    After my step father told me this story he followed it up with “at that moment I should have known and left your mother” 🫠

    • @Vreyan31@reddthat.com
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      I’m guessing your Mom is now on ‘team Bear’.

      I would consider that your Mom is the problem here except that the dudes lumped you in with being burned alive, and that suggests they are the PoS.

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    Let me add to that, this is something my own mother said while being of sound mind:

    • parents should have the right to kill their children if they become unruly (She said it twice)
  • @FRYD@sh.itjust.works
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    I was eating dinner with my dad a year ago when he told me about how he believes jews secretly run the world and that there’s something fishy about the Rothschilds. I burst out laughing thinking my dad had suddenly developed a very modern online sense of humor, but unfortunately no.

    I’ve never known my dad to be antisemitic, and he even explained that regular jews are a different group from the ones in control.

    I straight up told him it’s ridiculous and that he needs to get off the internet, but he never agreed with me. I still don’t know how to handle the situation really.

    Oh and my mom went borderline sovereign citizen a few years ago, but I don’t remember what insane thing she said first.

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      I straight up told him it’s ridiculous and that he needs to get off the internet…

      Which is especially crazy when I imagine I’m not the only one who was constantly told my personally developed views were influenced purely from “listening to all those liberals on the internet.”

      Confirmation bias is a helluva drug, pops. :(

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        What’s wild is that my dad is a democrat, “union man”, who is himself otherwise liberal. He agrees that there’s a class war, but that the rich are organized specifically by a few secret unimaginably rich jewish families for unclear purposes.

    • @bitjunkie@lemmy.world
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      He’s so close… He’s even distinguishing that the problem is social class, just not taking the racism part out of it. There might actually be hope in his case.

      • Makhno
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        He’s even distinguishing that the problem is social class, just not taking the racism part out of it.

        Seeing the world turn a blind eye to Gaza confirms that powerful zionists have at least partial control over the western narrative.

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    My da told me “God does not forgive people who curse his name.”

    I asked “But God forgives people who sexually abuse kids?”

    “If they ask for forgiveness, yes.”

    wHy DoNt YoU aTtEnD cHuRcH aNyMoRe??? lmao shut up.

    • @CoffeeJunkie@lemmy.cafe
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      LOL, that’s not even scripturally correct. He doesn’t know his own faith! 😂 This is common, and really sad when you think about it, because their faith is their “single most important thing” in life & they’re so damn ignorant of it. Like…it’s one book. Read it, if you are so inclined?

      There is only one sin earmarked as the eternal sin, the unforgivable sin. Explicitly described in Matthew 12:30–32, alluded to in other relevant passages. “Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit”. Even blasphemy against the Son of Man (Jesus) will be forgiven…but never the Holy Spirit. Because it’s simply too big of a contradiction or discrepancy in how the Christian faith operates & how one is saved. You have the “power of the Holy Spirit” working through you, working with Christ & God the Father on your behalf. Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is largely interpreted as to deny that very power, the power that saves.

      It is akin to needing hydration, but refusing to drink large amounts of any kind of liquid ever. Or needing an electrical charge to run a device, but never making a connection to transfer the power, you’re going to somehow “will” or speak the power into your phone. Well. That’s simply not how it works, and you’ll never have power.

      I only explain to provide clarity of the Christian faith to others, I do not profess the faith present day, it has taken 25 years of my life. Others are welcome to comment, of course, but I’m not here to argue endlessly over “how many angels can dance on the point of a very fine needle”. As they say, and have done before, and has since morphed more colloquially into “on the head of a pin”. 😉

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        Is that denominationally specific? I’ve never heard of it.

        Knowing the actual theology is so rare in Christianity (or any religion) it’s basically not an important part. Which explains history.

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        Damn, I’ve never blasphemed that one. I may die and end up in heaven due to my religious upbringing. Can’t have that…

        FUCK THE HOLY SPIRIT

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          Cursing the holy spirit is not blaspheming the holy spirit.

          The only way to blaspheme the Holy Spirit is to have the Holy Spirit move through you, where you know beyond any shadow of any doubt that the essence of God itself is working in your actions, to be purified and elevated above mankind, and then to claim that this purification, elevation, and miracle comes from the devil and not from God.

          It is very difficult to do this, and even then, Jesus himself said you would be in danger of Hellfire, not guaranteed to go to Hell forever.

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        Welcome to “I interpret scripture as whatever benefits me” or whatnot.

        He’s actually a spiritual leader in our community. It all sucks. Lol

      • @steeznson@lemmy.world
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        I believe the “angels on the head of a pin” were Victorian scholars parodying the medieval debates they were studying at the time. It’s somewhat unfair because the mediaval scholars are much more sophisticated than that but the parody has endured.

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    My dad recently buult a new garden shed in the garden for tools and gardening stuff. He now started refering to the gazebo in the same garden as “the old shed” for some fucking reason. We were doing something that required power and ge asked me to plug in an extension in the shed. I do that and a couple minutes later he berates me and says he meant the old shed. When I asked if he meant the gazebo, he looked at me as if I had slapped him in the face. We’ve had the gazebo for about 15 years now I think and nobody ever called anything but that.

  • @GeeDubHayduke@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    My dad, the tech genius that he is, has been against every minor step forward since the 90’s:

    “Why do i need an answering machine, if they need me, they’ll call back.” He worked for himself as a handyman, so this is plain ridiculous. Finally, someone gives him an answering machine and suddenly it’s “This is awesome! I never miss a call! I’ve got so much work!” Later it was “Why do I need a debit card? I can just write a check!” which evolved to “It’s so convenient! I can get gas, even when they’re closed!” He repeated the answering machine argument when cell phones arrived, and repeated the results when he finally got one.

    It’s a running theme in his life. The one that really gobsmacked me was when he proudly declared “the Internet can’t hurt me if i don’t get on it!”

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      I think the saddest part about this is the phenomenon where people who didn’t understand tech were scared of new stuff that was actually really neat and helpful…

      …and nowadays they’re ridiculously trusting of shiny user-friendly corporate garbage that spies on them and manipulates them.

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        Hilariously relevant username, considering I was just going to reply with a “we’re too far from swinging in the trees now to handle it”.

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      “the Internet can’t hurt me if i don’t get on it!”

      Wise words, old man. o7

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      I fought against getting a contactless debit card for so long. I used to call my bank a month or so before my card expired demanding a non-contactless card. “But sir, you could just not activate the contact…” I don’t want any of it. I’d say “when I forget my pin it’s time to go home” paying chip and PIN like a peasant. I probably said “PIN Number” for how stupid I was being.

      Anyway, contactless payment is awesome.

      My fears are still grounded. Originally it was because, near weekly, I saw someone paying with a card they just picked off the floor. I hated the limit being so high long before they raised it, let alon after they raised it again. Also a skill check before ordering another beer has some merit.

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        i went tapa nd pay with CC recently, because i was still using the sliding feature for the longest time, because cc stealers can easily put on thier readers in a matter of seconds you wouldnt know.

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          So when you walk up to a terminal with your Visa and you tap your card it inputs a one time code. That code only matches up on the point of sale/banks end. If they take the same code and try to transmit it at say Wendy’s, it won’t work, as it has already been used. If someone swipes your card with a magnetic strip, or reads the numbers off manually and enters them online/in person/or over the phone the information will stay the same and can be used at elsewhere.

          Most of the anti tap worries are unfounded fear. Also the terminals that allow payments for two to pay also get registered so if someone steals a terminal to modify it, the terminal would be reported stolen by the owner, or if the terminal was purchased by the theif, it would have to be registered by them, and once again can get an investigation pointed in their direction fairly quickly. Is it possible to beat, I’m sure, but it’s MUCH easier to just jot down the numbers or skim thee strip