It’s that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I’m not the kind of person that ever wants anything…

My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.

I feel bad though. I know it’s hard when I don’t talk about things I want. And when asked, I don’t know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.

This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn’t want things want for their birthday?

  • pruwyben
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    72 months ago

    Food? Everybody likes food, right?

    Or an experience - a trip, a night out, whatever

  • @Wojwo@lemmy.ml
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    172 months ago

    I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don’t have to store or return anything.

  • The Menemen
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    2 months ago

    Get a hobby. You’ll always need/want stuff if you become a photographer or a fisherman or a pnp-player or a …

    • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OP
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      12 months ago

      If only for my birthday I could get more resources, like time for hobbies or a huge raise so I have more money than I know what to do with. 😁

  • Anna
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    22 months ago

    Ask for world peace maybe it’ll work.

  • Cruxifux
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    32 months ago

    I also don’t like receiving gifts from my spouse. So I just tell her to buy my bar tab for the night.

    • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OP
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      12 months ago

      Ha! I so very rarely go for drinks, mainly because I don’t wanna pay for it. Lol. If only I married someone who was independently wealthy. Oh well, no take backsies. 😁

      • Cruxifux
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        12 months ago

        Lol my wife isn’t rich either. She works as an insulator, so me makes decent enough money that she can buy me 60 bucks worth of beer once a year tho.

        • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OP
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          12 months ago

          If I didn’t have to actually absorb all the calories from that amount of beer, this would be an amazing gift. 🤣

          Seriously, I watch sitcoms where people are drinking beer after beer at home or going to bars all the time. My body simply can’t keep up with that amount of input. 🙃

          • Cruxifux
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            12 months ago

            Well I jog a lot and work construction so it evens out haha

            • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OP
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              12 months ago

              Oh yes. Jogging. I remember that.

              I may have to start jogging again just for the beer. 😁

    • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OP
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      22 months ago

      You know, I should have played a game where I guessed the percentage of comments that would involve some element of sexuality. Haha.

      Purple is my favorite color. 😁

  • @Maiq@lemy.lol
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    22 months ago

    Tell them the they are the only gift you need and how lucky you are to have them in your life. Anything material just pails in comparison.

    • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OP
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      22 months ago

      Ha! To which they will then melt in my arms and kiss me and tell me just how wonderful I am… only to then punch me in the arm and say… “now tell me what I can get you, dammit, or I will hurt you more!” 😁

  • @folaht@lemmy.ml
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    2 months ago

    To list of things anything you could want:

    • Goods
    • Services
    • Relationship time, that is your partner doing things for you,
      which can be subdivided into 10 more types of wishes.
    • ⓝⓞ🅞🅝🅔OP
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      12 months ago

      Imagine the gift of wonders that my mind might give me for my birthday! It would be incredible!Either that… or I will suffer a psychotic break. 🤣

  • @lietuva@lemmy.world
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    72 months ago

    I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up 😊

    • Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
    • Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert