I was a mess and even though we were both hot to trot I did not want to enter into a relationship before getting my shit together.
It’s been a few decades now but I’m sure that one day I will… not sure my wife will understand though 😂
going through this rn, but congrats on finding some peace with it
In my case, and in retrospect, it was in large part caused by undiagnosed ADHD and autism.
From a single sentence I wouldn’t be able to say one way or the other whether it’s something that affects you, but it was immensely helpful to look at a series of videos about “Adult ADHD” on YouTube. It became clear that a major portion of my issues could be attributed to my lack of knowledge about myself and these issues.
Often it’s because I’m just too afraid because the person is ridiculously good looking that I don’t think I have a chance, rejection always sucks. I’ve been with an attractive person or two in my time, so I know it’s not impossible, I’m ok-ish on a good day, but I know I’ll be so… distracted by their good looks that I probably won’t have anything intelligent to say.
There’s also the chance that either of us is in a relationship or workmates, which just isn’t a good mix and eventually leads to problems. Otherwise, I wish casual sex was just a common thing that people just did without any stigma attached to it (assuming STDs weren’t so rampant and safe sex was also just as common).
I wish casual sex was just a common thing that people just did without any stigma attached to it
ugh. Move to Portland. Most people here just sleep around and have no intentions of ever being in a real relationship.
Personally I hate that. But I guess it sure does work for a lot of people.
I wanted kids of my own and she didn’t. It never would have worked.
They’re not gay.
Cause I was the gender they weren’t into (repeat x30).
Where are all the bi folk when you need 'em
While that’s ideal, yes, I’d settle for more lesbians. 😄
Two people with the same sexuality and preferences just understand each other the best, don’t they
Lesbians only want to do the fun parts of sex. All killer no fill’er.
(My sincere apologies for that last sentence, it’s both inaccurate and tasteless, but I couldn’t help myself)
Tasteless would be if I responded with the culinary properties of my gender fluid
Sup
That’s so sweet, you named yourself after me!
♥️
So, uhhhh…
You forklift certified?
I am actually lol.
SPLOOSH
Oh my God, get over here, you sexy hunk of whatever gender you are
name checks out.
Because I was married to someone else. She was also married.
This.
I am married for longer than a decade, yet my instincts still develop a crush on random good looking women. I don’t tell anyone because I will feel ashamed by moral standards. I also won’t make a move on any one and painfully waiting for the feeling to wear off or the person to move away.
I couldn’t be a used car salesman. I wouldn’t be able to bring myself to sell someone a lemon.
She trusted me as a friend and really loved the asshole. I knew him a lot longer than she did and really couldn’t stand the guy, and I don’t think he liked me either, but she didn’t know that. I was dating someone else too, but my gf didn’t compare to her.
Funny thing is she’d tell me about their arguments and disputes and 90% of the time, she was in the wrong and I’d tell her that. I couldn’t believe I was defending him but I was honest and she appreciated my sharing a dude’s perspective. He followed her to college, and I don’t think he’d have even went if not for her, and they got married after. Still married now 30+ years later. I can only believe he grew into a much better man than he seemed to be as a kid, and I’m glad I didn’t interfere with their relationship. I eventually found my soul-mate and best friend so wouldn’t change a thing, but I can’t help but wonder how things might have played out in some alternate universe.
I was in the not-so-fun part of depression.
I never had to confess, she knew. And I knew she liked me back. But she could never bring herself to go for it, over fear of ruining the friendship. But her refusal to go for it made it so that over time the friendship was ruined anyways from me feeling jerked around/used.
It felt amazing to be constantly flirting. We were more in love with the eternal crush than eachother. Always a word away from spelling out the truth, but the dream was more exciting than any possible reality. We would spend the early hours talking remotely about nothing and everything at the same time. When we did meet in person among common friends, we would lock knowing gazes. We both had our own relationships, but kept this small cozy flame secretly burning over the years, and never let it develop into a full blown blaze in fear of losing what was so magical about it.
It was never the right time, also haven’t thought of her in years.
- We met in chem lab and it was a fucking amazing time every week her smile made every week so worth it.
- That lasted the year and I finally felt the courage to ask her but summer was starting
- She came back with a boyfriend.
- Her classes started being very different and she did more sorority activities so it was hard to hang out ever.
- She breaks up with that boyfriend but it’s already senior year and she was going to grad school in Texas and I was going elsewhere.
- We give each other big hugs and say goodbye on the last day cementing it as a forever “what if I had more courage?”
She was the only what if for me tbh, I haven’t thought of her in years as said. Hope she’s doing well, but it’s important to always move on from this stuff lol. Don’t hang onto it, if it was going to work it would have
To be honest, I’ve had 4 actual crushes so far, and I asked out 3 of them. They all ended in rejection, and the one I didn’t ask, I don’t know about. I’m moving away soon, I know I won’t see her again, and I barely know her, so I decided it’s best to leave it at that. We haven’t talked much, but it is still a bit of a what if I talked to her more and asked her out when I had the time for that, and the chance?
I was just a kid, get off my back!
We were coworkers sharing an office. Also she was married (and didn’t identify herself as polyamorous). I didn’t want to start drama.
