Both strangers or people you know?
I’ve been recently practicing voicing my favorable opinions on people to them. I’ve found I think nice things about people, and what is the reason why I wouldn’t share that. Seems to just give them a little boost while also creating a better social bond.
That’s cool!
Try it out yourself. Some people react strange to the out of nowhere compliments, but not that they regretted hearing it. A lot of the things I am saying are simple things like “Wow you strike me as very intelligent” “You smile with your whole face” “You have such an awesome sense of style”
Its been really good for me too since a lot of times I meet people and my immediate reaction is to be intimidated since I see so many of their positive qualities quickly, telling them the things I notice about them actually helps me retain my confidence in those situations too since I am the one being a beacon of positivity.
Like with most things in life, putting in effort pays out.
Frequently, but I’m a little old lady.
If you want to practice, “cute shoes!” or some equivalent is generally a safe choice. “Those sneakers look really fast!” “Love the socks!” “Stylin’ those shoes!” “Those sandals look really comfortable, and I love the sparkle!”
Because shoes are almost always a choice, and you don’t have to make eye contact or avoid looking at other body parts. Just don’t make it about their feet, or anything else they were born with, unless you’re really familiar.
Nice tits.
I’m joking. Never do that.
Edit: oh, how often. As soon as they do something I appriciate. It’s easy to be kind.
This is the way, it’s easy and at times even contagious!
A few times a week, on average. Not much to compliment on because at this point I’ve complimented on almost anything that comes to mind.
When I made this post, I knew you’d pop up. Idk who you are lenny but youre always around and its amazing.
I actually thought ‘call me lenni’ will be one of the first 5 people to comment here and checked if you were a mod here!
Edit: same for cheese greater and 1984, still might see kolanak
Aww thanks <3
So far I’m just a mod in !casualconversation@lemmy.world and !downvotedtooblivion@lemm.ee but am open for more positions.
If you ever want to know more about me, you’re always welcome to ask anything (even here if you’d like).
Not enough.
If not daily, almost then.
If my girlfriend not taking into account, then much less.
But I tend to feel gratitude towards things and people and I will let them know if I enjoy something!I only compliment people if they’ve done something impressive in some way. Rarely do I interact with strangers in any situation for that to occur. The limited situations like someone’s appearance or clothing beings stylish or something just seems like it would come off creepy to say so I won’t do that.
With people I know I tend to be pretty brutally honest so it’s rare I compliment them, but when I do they know it means something.
Pretty much every day, multiple times a day, with strangers, acquaintances, and friends. I think it usually brightens people’s day, and with strangers, I think delivery and content is much more important than what I look like or who I am.
For content, I only compliment choices, not attributes:
“Cool shirt!” is good, “Nice legs!” is not
“I love your haircut!” is good, “Your hair has such a nice texture!” is not
Tailored compliments are even better, ex. “That book (or other media) is awesome!” is great, if I really do like it, and it can start a conversation, but obviously I don’t lie and pretend I know it when I don’t.
For delivery, I keep it light and casual. I am mindful to only do it when they aren’t preoccupied, like on the phone or reading something. For tone, I guess I pop the compliment, smile, and movie on. For example, if we’re walking past each other-- I don’t slow down, and I look away immediately after giving a friendly smile. I don’t mean that I don’t care about their response, because of course I’m mindful to be sure I didn’t offend them, but I don’t burden them with needing to respond with gratitude or happiness. I think of it as, I want this person to have the (hopefully pleasant) information that their choice was seen and respected by a stranger. I don’t want anything back from them.
I would say 95-100% of the people I compliment seem to be genuinely happy I did, and of the ones who don’t react positively, I’d say the vast majority react neutrally. In the rare case where my compliment has totally failed, I usually go “Oh! I’m sorry” and again, disengage.
Obviously, with friends and acquaintances the options open up a little more, and usually I do follow up/continue the conversation instead of moving on. But it’s similar in the philosophy that I’m usually just trying to give them positive information, and not seeking anything in return. Compliments are not a tool to get people to talk to me or be friends with me. That can and does happen, but it’s not the point. Honestly, I think that’s the part that most people struggle with, if they feel like they don’t get good responses with compliments. It’s not for us.
I do think I’m probably an outlier, because I give compliments a lot. But I continue to do it because it seems to really make people smile!
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I don’t get a chance to compliment people that often, but I do try to genuinely listen to people.
Non-stop. If there’s an opportunity I’m doing it.
I like to and try to compliment folks shirts often because I know how nice it feels when someone compliments mine.
In 2023? Are you trying to get to know HR and/or legal better or something?
Almost zero. Sometimes I try to make a conscious effort to, but that goes up and down with energy
I feel like i’m much more comfortable complimenting people I don’t know other than my gf most of the time despite being someone who likes to complimemt people. Even if it comes off as flirty apparently
