Having removed metadata and with nothing recognizable in the pic.
If your partner knows about it and is ok with it? No. In any other context? Yes.
If you’re keeping this from your partner, the fact that it’s not recognizable/traceable doesn’t make it better, it just means you know what you’re doing is wrong and you’re taking steps not to get caught.
If you’re serious about this question, you should not be in a relationship. Regardless of whether it was you or your partner doing it, if it was hidden from the other person, it’s cheating.
Nah not cheating but definitely something that should be discussed in a relationship.
No but everyone’s definition of cheating is different. If I found out, I’d ask that my partner communicate that she’s doing it, maybe include me in some way, like taking the pictures.
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Whether something, anything, is considered “cheating”, is based on whatever the two people in a relationship agree shall be considered cheating. It’s their relationship, their rules. An oral contract (pun intended).
I’m poly; I don’t have a personal definition of cheating in that context. My partner is a grown-up and can do what she wants; I can barely see how that’s even my business, let alone my problem.
But if you pretend to follow a given set of rules, while actually secretly breaking them - that’s pretty much the definition of cheating in any context.
If your partner would be not-OK with some activity, but you want to do it, then you either do it anyway and face the conflict head on, or you don’t do it at all.
Selling nudes specifically - some would care a lot, some would be fine with it, and the only way to know is to ask. But sneaking around because you assume it’d be a dealbreaker if they found out - no bueno. No bueno at all.
This. Cheating isn’t any one specific thing, it’s a breach of trust. If you know your partner wouldn’t like it don’t do it. If you’re not sure, ask. If you don’t want to ask, then yeah it’s probably cheating.
Whose nudes?
It’s cheating and the fact that you are asking shows you know it is.
Yep, you’re asking everyone except the right person, here. Ask your partner. If you’re afraid to ask your partner, then assume it’s cheating until you do.
I think the fact they’re asking shows they’re not sure.
But also, one should be sure what your partner constitutes as cheating before engaging in said action, yeah.
My wife and I do not see the selling of nudes as cheating (unless non-consent to the nudes or the distribution, then it’s a lot of levels of gross) but others might disagree.
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Cheating is when you do something that betrays your partners trust.
I couldn’t care less if my partners post nudes, anonymous or otherwise, so it wouldn’t be cheating for me.
Other people feel differently, and so it could be cheating for them.
I don’t think that’s true. Its not cheating if you steal a bunch of money from your partner’s bank account by pretending to fall for a scam and hiding the money in some swiss account.
It’s a fucked up thing to do, but it’s not “cheating on your partner”.
maybe look up the definition of cheating
Agreed. Cheating in a relationship does not have the same definition as cheating in other contexts.
Infidelity (synonyms include cheating, straying, adultery, being unfaithful, two-timing, or having an affair) is a violation of a couple’s emotional and/or sexual exclusivity that commonly results in feelings of anger, sexual jealousy, and rivalry.
I also agree.
While I couldn’t care less (it’s their body and bodily autonomy is super important to me), I’d be a little hurt if they didn’t tell me about it.
In that case I’d be more interested in talking to my partner to try and understand why they felt that they couldn’t talk to me about it and needed to keep it a secret.
That’s a decision you have to make along with your partner(s).
That’s my take. If your partner is aware and doesn’t mind there’s nothing wrong with it. If you’re doing it behind their back, that’s a big issue, in more ways than one.
No because I define cheating as sex with a non partner without the partner’s knowledge or permission.
But it still ain’t great and should absolutely be discussed with them. Hiding shit like that never works out and it will just damage or destroy trust when they find out.
You can emotionally cheat on people as much as physically cheat.
Not cheating, but without her knowledge or permission it just kind of makes you a piece of shit
Posting nudes is not cheating. Not telling your partner you’re posting nudes is cheating.
No but if your partner feels the need to hide this from you it’s a good moment for reflection
This depends entirely on what boundaries you have set in your relationship(s), and whether the person who is doing the sex work is open about it with the other partner(s)
Example 1: Relationship is established as monogamous, person is open about performing sex work and is not doing things behind their partner’s back/trying to hide it, and both parties are satisfied that it falls within the boundaries they’ve set in their relationship - not cheating!
Example 2: Relationship is established as polyamorous, people involved have several partners and metamours. Person doing the sex work is not open with one or more of their partners about it, tries to hide it or do it behind people’s backs, or does so despite it being outside of the boundaries set with one or more of their partners - cheating!
As with the vast majority of things in this vein, it’s all about the individuals involved.
