I (32m) started seeing prostitutes when I was 20 and have done it on and off up to my current age. I find the lack of sexual and emotional connection lures me into to seeing them even when I say I’m going to stop. Whenever I am doing decent financially I end up going back to seeing them. I try to be a spiritual person and read the bible and not lust over women but it can be a struggle and mental battle. Does anyone else have this same bad habit?
The problem is not your ‘lust over women’. That’s a perfectly natural human impulse. The problem, if it exists, is that it’s negatively impacting your relationships and finances.
I haven’t really been lusting over women of late so yes I agree and I think boredom and hypersexuality might play a decent role
Are you in a cycle of shame and binge?
Lust is natural. Bottling up natural urges rather than processing or redirecting them can lead you to a cycle of shame and binge. At that point it’s valuable to work through it, whether that’s alone or with a professional.
Hypersexuality is complicated because it’s often not a biological thing but a relation to your shame and denial, or it’s a means of pursuing something else