I (32m) started seeing prostitutes when I was 20 and have done it on and off up to my current age. I find the lack of sexual and emotional connection lures me into to seeing them even when I say I’m going to stop. Whenever I am doing decent financially I end up going back to seeing them. I try to be a spiritual person and read the bible and not lust over women but it can be a struggle and mental battle. Does anyone else have this same bad habit?
There’s nothing particularly wrong with lust, sexual attraction, desire for connection, etc. It’s all part of simply being human. Why would you assume that the teachings of the Christian bible are correct, not in just this matter, but any other? Why not any other scripture? Buddhists, for instance, would say that any desire prevents you from progressing spiritually. Satanists (me!) would say that no desire is inherently wrong, and that it’s how the desire is expressed, and it’s whether it overrides someone else’s autonomy that makes a thing right or wrong.
I don’t view paying a prostitute for sexual services as being inherently wrong. It’s wrong if you’ve agreed to sexual fidelity with another person (terms and conditions apply), and it’s wrong if you’re using a prostitute that has been forced into sexual labor. But if you haven’t promised a partner (or partners) that you will be sexually faithful to them, and the prostitute is in the field willingly–or, at least as willingly as anyone that works at any job–then it’s not really any more wrong than, say, paying someone to make a meal for you when you’re hungry. Labor is labor, regardless of the nature of the work.
The first step to overcoming this ‘problem’ is therapy. You want a sexual and emotional connection, and you feel like you’re unable to find it otherwise. You should find a licensed psychotherapist–not a member of the clergy, not a life coach–and work on why you have problems finding that.
Why would you assume that the teachings of the Christian bible are correct, not in just this matter, but any other? Why not any other scripture? Buddhists, for instance, would say that any desire prevents you from progressing spiritually.
Because Jesus Christ rose from the dead. OP is a Christian and believes that.
Satanists (me!) would say that no desire is inherently wrong, and that it’s how the desire is expressed, and it’s whether it overrides someone else’s autonomy that makes a thing right or wrong.
Why should OP listen to and try to appease a Satanist? Your opinion is irrelevant at that stage. This is the same as a Christian telling an atheist that their gay relationship is wrong. Just reversed.
Because Jesus Christ rose from the dead. OP is a Christian and believes that.
Any evidence for that, aside from a book that doesn’t cite sources? Look mate, I can believe that Harry Potter really defeated He Who Shall Not Be Named and saved the muggle world from his domination, but does that make it right? Would that be a positive thing to base all of my life on?
This is the same as a Christian telling an atheist that their gay relationship is wrong.
…And yet, they do that all the time, don’t they? Not only that, but they try to pass laws preventing them from happening. Or to prevent trans people from accessing appropriate healthcare. Or to ensure that women don’t have rights to their own bodies.
Any evidence for that, aside from a book that doesn’t cite sources?
The book is the source. And those sources willingly faced torment and execution for that fact. Most of history from that time period is from books that don’t cite sources. Most news articles don’t cite sources. Primary sources don’t cite sources. The modern invention of citation wasn’t a big thing then.
And yet, they do that all the time, don’t they?
I do not condone that.
Or to ensure that women don’t have rights to their own bodies.
Never heard of this happening.
If you’re a satanist, you’re just a Christian who hates God. 🤷♂️
I get it, it’s fun saying you’re a satanist to get a reaction from Christians.
Satanists are like: “We don’t actually believe in satan” which is funny because that’s exactly what satan wants you to think