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Do all the cool physical things you want to do now, like mountain climbing, martial arts, skiing whatever. You can still do all of that at 40 but it’s harder to find time and you’re much more injury prone.
ITT 40 yesr olds tell you to put 10% of your non-existent savings on retirement funds. Good sdvice tbh but they failed to account for landlords and shit
Wear earplugs at loud concerts and parties and at work if you have a noisy job.
People will make fun about you, but believe me, permanent tinnitus really sucks.
Yeah I am in my 40s and I when its quiet I hear that squealing and I really cant hear what I used to.
Plus, if you preserve your hearing you’ll be able to hear all the high dog whistle frequencies that everybody else won’t be able to, and you’ll feel just a tiny bit superior for no good reason.
Mine is modest; but practice being mindful of your emotional reactions.
If something upsets you, interrogate why, and whether your reaction will help. 90% of the time it won’t, so learn to appreciate that you are upset, but don’t let it control you. Because if you don’t you’re going to start seeing the world through incredibly negative eyes.
For example, I used to be a nightmare behind the wheel, always getting angry with shitty drivers and red lights. But I began trying to catch those thoughts, and asked myself whether they would stop other drivers being shitty, or whether it would stop me getting caught at red lights. Would I still be angry in ten minutes? The answer is almost always no, so to expend that energy feels like a waste of time to me now.
Sure, I still get pissy, but I don’t sit with it for longer than I need to. You wouldn’t sit in acid, so why sit in anger?
Don’t get married before you’re 25
Around 30 years old your body stops healing, injuries are just things you live with forever now, and old injuries you thought had healed come back as forever pain… just keep that in mind when doing stupid shit… This includes injuries to your lungs and mind from things like smoking and drugs.
If you want to help people in any way, get rich first. No one will pay you enough to live off of for helping people… Better to bring your own wealth to the table and hopefully be able to help people for real with it.
If you don’t already know how, learn to code asap… In 20 years, programming will be one of the few jobs left… Maybe
Forget one piece!
Put money into your 401k. Learn more about personal finance than video games. Lift heavy things with proper form and put them back down again a lot. Give all people respect and kindness even if they’re being snotty. Brush your god damn teeth.
- Stay out of debt
- Strength train (5/3/1 three or four days per week)
- Avoid substance abuse
- Only settle down with someone who is a HELL YES. If you’re lukewarm about them, it’s a no
- Make time to do something creative like music, make it a habit
- Say no if you’re not interested in something or someone. Its ok to say no to shit
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You will get fatter unless you eat less and less for the rest of your life, probably starting around 32
The healthier you eat, the more difficult it will be to become and stay overweight.
A McDonalds hamburger with a medium fries and medium drink is 1,200 calories. This is almost trivial for most people to eat.
Conversely, 1 lb of lean ground beef, 2 cups of rice (when dry), 2cups of vegetables with a dessert of two cups of fruit is also 1,200 calories, yet represents almost 3× the amount of food when fully prepared.
Eat healthy raw foods, and viciously limit your intake of highly processed foods, and you will likely remain decently slim without even trying.
Also, unless you’re one of those people who legitimately doesn’t care if food tastes good or not, learn to cook. You don’t have to be good a cooking everything, but develop a repertoire of food that is healthy and you like to eat.
The age where you could depend on a wife to be a good cook for you are long past.
It’s fairly hard to create one-size-fits-all advice since everyone will be in different parts of their lives in different circumstances.
Less time on the internet and definitely away from the big social media sites does one good. Avoiding the 24/7 news cycle does as well. Instead, read a book for something you want to learn or read fiction for some period of time a day on most days.
mid 30s guy also learning from most of these comments
Protect your back. Use proper form when lifting heavy weights. I let my back go round while pressing a few hundred pounds on an inverted incline leg press in my 20s, bulged a disk, and ever since my mid 30s it has been my Achilles’ Heel. Goes out without warning. Completely lays me up when it does. Rubbish. Wish I could go back and undo that.
Man, I’m fortunate enough to not have any lasting/recurring pain (so far) but I was working harder than I should have and sprained some ribs. I didn’t even know that was possible.
That was the single worst 3 days I have ever experienced. It was like being water boarded with pain. It hurt to breathe. I couldn’t breathe deep at all and occasionally had spasms where all I could do was stand and focus on getting oxygen.
I couldn’t lie down either so I couldn’t sleep. What little sleep I got was sitting up on the couch with my arm propping up my head on the arm rest.
I came here to say that, and I’ll add wear ear protection if you’re anywhere loud. Who gives a shit if you don’t look cool wearing a headset or ear plugs. You know what else isn’t cool? That constant ringing in my ears because I was an idiot for years. I have to sleep with two loud fans now.
Omg yes the ear protection. I never paid attention to the warnings, it was just a loud club on a random Thursday after all. I was too young to realize the compounding effect. Even now I look back and feel like my partying and exposure to loud fun was mild, yet here I am with partial hearing loss and a portable white noise generator.
my dumbass fell asleep with mp3 at full blast when i was 7. WHYYYYYYYYYYY
I’m 39, but this is mine: do you just feel kinda “blah” all the time, don’t enjoy anything including things you used to enjoy, and can’t motivate yourself to do anything? That might be depression, and it might also be undiagnosed ADHD. The sooner you learn about that and get help with it, the better you’ll feel and the more effective you’ll be (and the less you’ll let down the people you love).
This is me at 42
Research your professional value and have the courage to go after it if you are not being paid what you are worth.
I worked 17 years for the same company. I was promoted 4 times during those years and received a few extra pay increases along the way, but I was underpaid as soon as I took the first promotion and the gap increased with each additional promotion. I probably walked away from more than $100k in lifetime earnings, plus interest, by sticking with the company.
I should have changed companies at least once and probably twice. You don’t have to be on a promotion path to run into this. It could be you were underpaid on day 1, but you needed the job or you didn’t have experience. That’s fine, but once you have the experience and have proven yourself, find out what the market rate is for your role and ask for it, be ready to show your research. If you don’t get it, start applying for other jobs.
Don’t be afraid to talk to your peers about salary. If you are making less, you know there is a gap you can go after (just don’t name your coworker when you ask for more, do market research and make it impersonal/just business). If you are making more, pass this advice on to your coworker.
If you are being paid fairly for the work you are doing, but know you can do more, start looking into what it takes to make a move. For example, you might be the best fast food or retail worker the world has ever had, but the job only pays so much. What else might you be good at? You could look for training in a trade or try to find an entry level role in a company that has a wider set of tasks available that offers a growth path.
I agree with a lot of the comments here about saving and investing and keeping expenses down, but growing your earnings is typically easier than shrinking your rent. It still isn’t easy though, especially if you need to relocate to earn more.
The old don’t stick your dick in crazy is actually good advice but also, unwanted pregnancy can change your life in s very negative way.
The sex in your imagination is never going to live up to reality. Porn and even just popular culture paints a picture that’s impractical irl.
Which part of the picture you are talking about is impractical?
