Let’s hear some stories from the thready-verse about how you guys met your significant other.
For me it was during the first year of COVID, my company asked who from Europe (I was living in Sweden) wanted to go for a three month business trip to coach a big Korean automotive supplier on how to do modern software development. Most of the other people had families and especially during COVID nobody wanted to travel. I said I could do it, even though I never coached before. But because nobody else volunteered they sent me and and another guy who also was single without a family, etc.
I was convinced that the other guy would have good game with the women here, and thought that there is no harm in installing some international dating app and to try my own luck. During COVID I just lost a ton of weight and found new confidence and it was far away from home and what happens in Korea stays in Korea and so on :D
Anyway, to my surprise during the first two weeks I got some matches and I hit it off with one of them. We met and started dating and very quickly fell for each other. Then when the 3 months were over, I asked the company if the customer would still have some use for my skills and they said yes and send me for 3 more months. I had to go back to Sweden to get a new Visa and spent another 2 weeks in quarantine (as the first time). But then the second tree months were over too and I asked again for more. By that time I was really sick of all the time in quarantine and asked if they could move me from the Swedish office to the Korean office and they agreed.
I went back to Sweden, threw away most of my stuff and put the most valuable things up on a friends attic and moved to Korea with one suitcase. I stayed at AirBnB’s for two more months and then we found an apartment and moved in together.
She has a daughter from a previous marriage and we now have a 1.5 year old son together and we still live in Korea :D
Met last year through online dating, met once when we were able to and sparks flew when I saw he eyes light up at me mentioning that the intersection outside my front door really should be a roundabout.
Never knew how sexy a politically active dryad could be until I was seeing one whenever we had the chance to meet up. She’s legit like a forest spirit that shows up from congress with the fey courts and immediately wants to jump me and it’s fucking amazing. 10/10, date the witchy ones if you know how to appreciate them, they will have you under a spell you’ll never want to be freed from.
Maybe it’s second honeymoon phase since we’re getting to see each other for the first time in a few months after I caught a nasty bug, but the needed time apart has just reinforced to me that my life’s better with her in it than it is when she’s not, and if that’s not a healthy foundation for something bigger to be built on, I haven’t found what is yet.
Dating apps. The apps suck but meeting people in real life is a lot harder for me. Have to figure out do they date men, do they date men now, what kind of relationship do they want, etc. At least on most apps that stuff is taken care of.
Have to figure out do they date men, do they date men now, what kind of relationship do they want, etc.
I realized, the stereotypical gay stuff is partially just to signal to people who you may be interested in.
For clarity I’m a man who doesn’t date men. I’ve just had amusingly bad luck being attracted to women who don’t date men.
High school crush? Last I heard happily married to a woman.
Office crush? Happily married to a woman.
I do ethical non monogamy. I had a date with a woman. I thought she was great. At the end of the date she said she didn’t really date men, so that was that.
A year later I have a date with another woman, and discovered an hour in that she was the previous woman’s wife. I was apparently the last guy she tried to date before deciding she wasn’t bi anymore.
Oh xd. Um… I guess learn the lesbian stereotypes? Or act aggressively straight so they know to avoid you? I think those are both bad ideas actually
Damn, you and me both! I kept falling for queer women! They gave off really good, genuine vibes that just clicked with me. Of course, I also dated straight women, but usually fell for bad ones. Then I really hit it off with a guy, which was new for me, but he turned out to be freaking awesome, and we are now engaged, years later. Go figure. xD
A friend of my roommate at the time brought my now-wife to a New Year’s Eve party we were throwing. Her “friends” had made plans without her to go to a concert and deliberately kept it from her until tickets were sold out. She was all set to have a sad evening at home but my roommates friend made her come with to the party. We hit it off immediately
We both hung out on a Digimon fansite in high school lol
I had two coworkers who were sisters and I got along with decently. Befriended the younger one and one day she invited me to a house party at the place she shared with her brother. Night ended with her yelling through the door “STOP FUCKING MY FRIENDS!” which I still think is hilarious.
Anyway we partied a lot and then settled down later and we’ve been together for 8 years now so it didn’t turn out too badly.
That’s the neat part, I didn’t.
We were in the same circle of friends freshman year of high school and it didn’t take long for us to start dating. He moved across the state sophomore year, so we were long distance for a couple years, but he came back for university. We moved in together after graduating, married around four years later, and he’s still putting up with me after twenty 😊
When our best friends were getting married and we met at the rehearsal dinner. Her best friend had been trying to get us to meet for years (our work schedules and lives in general always kept us from meeting). Within two months we were dating and have been together ever since.
Plot twist, best friends got married just to get you two to meet
She was dating my ex girlfriend. They split. My ex recommended she ask me out because she thought we might be a good fit. It’s been 14 years.
Having a previous significant partner that I split with on good terms has always been a great strategy for getting a new partner.
So I was between relationships, hanging out with a friend, dropping her off at work when one of her coworkers catches my eye. I ask my friend who she is, and she laughs and says she’s in a long-term relationship. I laugh and move on.
Later on, I try to call my friend at her work, and this lady picks up the phone. I’m in a good mood, I flirt with her a bit and hang up once I’ve gotten the info about my friend.
Months after all that, I’m renting out a room and this friend refers her coworker who just broke up with her boyfriend. She moves in, engages in some rebound activity, and we hang out a bit. I determine I’m interested in her and she’s interested in me, but I’ve been dating someone for a while. This relationship is only a few months old, and it’s reminding me of my first marriage. I break it off and have sex with my roommate on what could charitably be called our first date. Within 6 months she stops having her own room.
We proceed to blow past a number of other red flags, and have now been together for about 14 years, married for 7.
I told (and tell) my kids that we did everything wrong in starting a relationship, but it worked out in spite of it
I was joining the crew of a ship that I had worked on before. When I met the mate in the tender to bring me aboard I requested to be moved into a specific cabin (to avoid being put in the one that shares a bulkhead with the engine room water tight door which is clanged loudly every half hour for safety checks). That cabin was already occupied by my future wife.
Tinder. Really happy, now my wife baby coming soon. Those shitty awful apps can work sometimes
A buddy wanted to play board games and there was a shop not far from where I lived with a lot of them, including some in English (I live in Japan, Tokyo at the time). We played games and I wanted to introduce him to my favorite bar. The place next to it was also somewhere I went often and had two open seats. We sat down and started talking with some others I didn’t know and some regulars. Well, I hit it off with one of those people I didn’t know and we’ve now been married almost 3 years. I wasn’t actually looking for anything at the time, having more-or-less given up on the whole dating thing after a couple of relationships (mostly looking on LTR/marriage-focused apps here). So, basically, very lucky.
In 2017 I was coming out as transgender and looking for a job. Got an interview as head evening manager at a grocery store. Go in for the interview and am not sure if I’m out yet, but the store manager figured it out and was really open and said they had 2 trans people working there already, so I’m like fuck it, get the job and am out.
One of the other trans people is my right hand person like 2-3 days/week, store manager tries to enthusiastically but awkwardly introduce us.
Over the next couple of weeks everything goes to shit in the store; manager is fired, lot’s of employees leave, severely understaffed, etc. I’m working like 80 hour weeks and every evening is a battle, and through commiseration and tough days a bond forms between me and the other person. Start meeting every time I have a day off and start dating like 6 weeks after we first meet, and 6 weeks after that we move in together.
Been together almost 7 years, now. Worked together for the first 3ish.
We met in college. We are in the same class, and just sat together.
Funnily, I wanted to organize a D&D round, so I texted in the common class group if anyone was interested. No one publicly replied, and she felt sad for me - so she texted me privately and told me that she hopes someone answered me. That’s how we began texting and talking.
I think that’s a cute story :)
