People who make me feel like crap or worse off then when I encountered them consistently are written off and out of my life
Doesn’t matter if its family, nobody is entitled to your attention and suffering and it does nobody any real good for you to succumb to the inevitable dysfunction it creates in your life and relationships and also material conditions.
Everyone deserves respect.
Respect is in fact, not earned.
One loses respect due to their behavior.
I like to say that everyone is deserving of respect, but few are deserving of deference.
This bigly. Everyone innately deserves respect. You can absolutely lose it for being a wanker.
“Respect is earned” needs to die in a fire.
Never trust in anyone even your own shadow.
“Treat people the way you would like them to treat you.”
“Judge every claim on the basis of the evidence presented for it.”
Treat people the way they would like to be treated.
I have a whole growing plethora of these, rules of thumb I consider in the long scheme of organization. Where would I start if not to ask about stuff?
Adapt or die.
ITT Americans using morning news headlines to cope with their miserable 3rd world existence.
ITT presumptive condescending europeans
Hmm… Acshtually, it is local evening news that allows them to cope properly
Make it work, then make it work right.
And it’s companion for understanding how things came to be- every complex working system invariably developed from a simple working system
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”
Now that I think about it, my principles like my life may be all about engineering…
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”.
When I make maps for ttrpgs, I’ve started using a tool that is, let’s be honest, kinda crap. The maps I can make using it can only ever be “good enough.” This is good, because it means I don’t spent hours trying to make it perfect, and instead just finish prepping other things.
Why does one need strong opinions? And what are they actually?
To me, having a strong opinion means I have thought about the problem space enough to understand what I believe are the important aspects and what optimizes them. Remembering to hold them weakly in the light of previously unconsidered or under appreciated arguments prevents me from becoming overly rigid.
MVP is a good tool I was just mentioning. Picked it up unknowingly from coding, still working on generalizing it to my life but its working and rightly for me
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Ooh this is excellent phrasing of a good principle
If someone tells you something, that something does not get repeated without asking for permission first. People don’t have to say “can I tell you this in confidence?” Absolutely everything is kept in confidence.
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Be unremarkable but no so unremarkable as to be in and of itself remarkable
Be slightly more useful than I am annoying… I’m really fucking annoying
Sometimes it’s fine to be annoying. But only sometimes.
Oh I’m well aware. Unfortunately I have far more control over how useful I am than how annoying I am 😅
My sides went into orbit. Specially because I’m aware that I’m often annoying, too. And… yeah, it’s hard to control it, I know, fair point!
If it works for you, do it. Ignore what other people think
Don’t have your mouth write checks your ass can’t cover
Or
Under promise while over deliver
Aim to surprise, and you’ll never not impress. Unless its a dark surprise.
Keep the roof watertight, keep the toilet flushing, keep oil in the engines, keep gas in the tanks, keep at least a week of food in the pantry. Literally nothing else on this earth matters if you don’t have these five things done.
