Why are most people here are negative and rude?

Just to be clear here, I am not talking about instance, rather I am asking about the whole community.

There is no one I seen here who even had expressed any passion towards anything really.

I cannot understand how did that happen?

  • @JackLSauce@lemmy.world
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    65 days ago

    I don’t see that much hate but plenty of anger

    Won’t speculate as to why but will recommend the community push for keyword filtering at the account level (a la Bluesky) rather than relying on apps like Sync to help us sift through the garbage

  • Fingolfinz
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    355 days ago

    You’re asking something that is extremely subjective, in a very combative way. You don’t seem like you have good intentions

    • TeaOP
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      -195 days ago

      This comment is pretty ironic.

      • You’re asking something that is extremely subjective, in a very combative way. You don’t seem like you have good intentions

        I’m gonna save that line for starting fights.

        • @saltesc@lemmy.world
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          95 days ago

          Yo, bro, stop being so very combative. That’s like, extremely subjective. You don’t have good intentions. I’m better than you- what? I didn’t say that.

      • snooggums
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        265 days ago

        How so?

        It was factual and stated neutrally as far as I can tell.

        • queermunist she/her
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          -65 days ago

          Saying “You don’t seem like you have good intentions” is, itself, extremely subjective in a very combative way.

      • Hegar
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        335 days ago

        Almost as ironic as blithely accusing a large collection of disparate communities of having a culture of hate, negativity and rudeness.

  • Hegar
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    75 days ago

    I browse 3-5 times a day, and see something unnecessarily rude maybe once a week or so. I’ve not noticed any change in rudeness or negativity recently.

    Without hard data, mood trends identified on social media usually say more about the identifier than the community.

    • @otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      105 days ago

      Don’t roll The Fugees into this. They may be 2/3 out-of-touch asshats IRL, but at least they’re not Reddidurs sloughing off that fetid cadaver like whiny pus.

  • Rentlar
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    65 days ago

    I try to be more constructive and positive… you get what you give for the most part. There are trolls abound like any online platform but ignore, report and/or block them and move on with your day.

    There is no one I seen here who even had expressed any passion towards anything really.

    All/Top is mostly general posts, news and memes. There are a lot of smaller communities on Lemmy that are about people’s passions.

    Is technology your passion (judging by your posts)? If so check out more specific communities on stuff like Android, Apple, retro computing, homeassistant, linux, windows, etc. If it’s something else chances are there’s a community for that (albeit it could be relatively inactive). The technology subs attract general discussion, so go for the niches.

  • notsure
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    25 days ago

    with the enshittification of all other social media, the exodi and influx would be appropriate for this particular cartoon about little blobs being unwelcome, creating their own space, then being crowded out to the dialogue “oh no”…clear??

  • mesa
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    335 days ago

    Cant say im seeing it. Maybe hang out in different communities?

  • @Tylerdurdon@lemmy.world
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    35 days ago

    I get it too. People would rather start calling you names than have a discussion. I think it’s the “with us or against us” mentality as a whole that makes people very volatile.

    You sound like a reasonable person though, so I hope you don’t depart.

    • TeaOP
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      35 days ago

      If I am being pretty honest with you, I thought about leaving Lemmy before due to multiple reasons+ the culture of hate here.

      But I always think about the alternatives and I don’t find many.

      As long as there is no a better alternative to Reddit, I am staying.

  • @whileloop@lemmy.world
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    25 days ago

    I’ve seen it here as long as I’ve been here, it’s the main reason why I’m not on here much anymore. First time I noticed it was when I went looking for Christian communities here and found nearly every post was getting more downvotes than upvotes. Kinda seems like there are a few on this platform who enjoy downvoting people just for being Christians - and those people outnumber those interested in actual conversation on those communities.

    So why is Lemmy like this? I dunno, I can only speculate.

  • Fitik
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    175 days ago

    I don’t think it’s something limited to Fedi, but internet in general. The whole social media “algorithm” promotes such posts, an edgy extreme post filled with hate will get more reactions and upvotes, than a “lame” conventional opinion, so you’re more likely to see it. I am not sure how to even fix it, I think it’s one of the fundamental problems if the internet, but this is how it is

    • @baggachipz@sh.itjust.works
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      125 days ago

      There is no algorithm like that here. You could argue that “popular” posts are the most inflammatory, but that’s not the case in a lot of the communities I frequent.

        • @baggachipz@sh.itjust.works
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          25 days ago

          Fair, but I would argue that in and of itself is not the major problem. There were flame wars/trolls/squabbles on the internet for years. Then along came the rage-rewarding algorithms and clickbait based on profiling, and it all went to shit. Basically, dumping gasoline on ego and indignity.

          • @meyotch@slrpnk.net
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            25 days ago

            You are correct in your history for sure.

            My comment was more focused on Lemmy and the reason for occasional outbreaks of nastiness. There is no algorithm in the sense you describe on Lemmy.

            I meant to convey that what we see on Lemmy is a property that emerges from human interaction through this medium.

            Our conversation may be an example of this. I made a comment that was short, but I thought it was unambiguous. Your reply was thoughtful and topical. But a short text requires you to fill in a lot of context. So you may create a slightly different picture than I intended.

            This is a deep cut sci-fi tangent, but it applies. Being pseudonymous and not having durable social reputation makes for different human behaviors.

            True Names by Vernor Vinge exceprt

            The full story is available with a search on the title and author.

  • @Mobster@feddit.uk
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    75 days ago

    Only been here a short while, and have had mainly positive experiences. I’ll usually give people benefit of the doubt as it can be hard for some to express themselves in text - so can come across as rude. Obvious trolling I just ignore.

  • @imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works
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    125 days ago

    If you have only been here for a month it’s not enough time to judge if the culture is changing, no?

    Also you’re saying two different things, that people are negative and rude and that they aren’t expressing any passion. I think some users are negative and rude, but they definitely still express passion even though it isn’t always positive. Lemmy users have always held strong and passionate beliefs, it’s part of why we decided to leave mainstream social media and use Lemmy instead.

    Sometimes those beliefs clash, but I don’t think it’s gotten any more negative lately. Plus it varies so much from server to server and community to community. It’s pretty foolish to paint all of Lemmy with the same brush because really it’s a bunch of independent communities with different attitudes and behaviors that are also able to interact with each other.