That not everyone secretly wanted to be a woman.
Well, not the women, obviously, because they’re already women.
Lucky bastards.
I’m still not entirely convinced tbh. I mean women are cute and just great and men are…
Men can be great too, and being a man has lots of perks (beyond even those imposed by patriarchy). Look for allies and you will find them in all gender flavours.
oh for sure. Wasn’t being serious, dysphoria is there and makes me basically think of existing as a man as hell and finding out that’s not everyone was interesting to say the least.
Oof yup that was a doozy
Knee pain. Everyone told me it was normal growing pains, until one little league coach notice I run weird. Queue years of doctors and specialists and tests and scans and surgeries, and now I’m a 40 something guy with advanced arthritis that could have been much much worse if left untreated.
way to go attentive little league coach!
also wtf parents?
My parents took me to see doctors, who told them it was just growing pains and suggested I exercise more to lose weight. I saw three specialists and had a bunch of xrays before anyone noticed the shady spots on my cartilage. Osteochondritis Dissecans occurs in 15-30 people out of 100,000, and most of the primary care doctors I’ve had in my life had never heard of it.
I can’t blame my parents for that. I can blame them for a lot of things, but they did their best.
“Well it’s not hurting me so it can’t be that bad.”
I remember one day realizing it was odd that my dad would hug my mom but my mom would never hug him back. She would just stand there and let him hug her. Yeah he was an abusive husband and I was very happy for her when she finally left him after over a decade!
Homophobia
I was raised in a right wing, rural area, and i didn’t meet a gay person til higschool. When he said he was gay, i assumed he was joking.
Im trans now lol
Dude tells you he’s gay, immediately turns you trans. The danger is real, people! 😭
if my grandma were to be believed my dad’s babysitter when he was 4 years old infected him with homosexuality then he passed it onto his children because one (me) is trans and the other is bisexual
She’s not very harmful about it but is just really damn confused lol
So if I get this right, your dad turned homosexual from his babysitter… Then proceeded to have two, presumably biologic, kids?
presumably biologic kids
Yeah, my dad fell for the “get a woman to protect you from same sex attraction” propaganda. Over the years he changed his mind and learned that it’s not something to be ashamed of, but he was in a relationship with kids now.
when I came out and my mom was very verbally abusive he kinda had the realization that the relationship wasn’t benefiting the children either. Also my mom was very very controlling over who he could talk to/make friends with.
He is currently in the process of a divorce after 22 years and is coming to terms with how he let fear control his life for that long.
It’s kinda sad.
Nah the dad was too strong to be brainwashed by the babysitter’s sexual deviance. But those poor baby sperm overhead everything and became infected with the gay.
These must be the so called trans reading bed time stories turning kids gay i keep hearing so much about. /s
Small towns are terrible for this. And racism
There’s a reason cities are more liberal. Turns out being surrounded by different cultures, races, sexualities, and beliefs shows you that maybe they’re not so different. In a town of 15k middle American white folks, it’s hard to see another culture equally, let alone at all.
Same thing with college. There’s no such thing as a liberal or democratic college. It’s just that people are simply surrounded by other people. You learn all of those weird rules and things you were taught don’t actually hold up, and that everyone is kind of the same
Grew up semi-rural south and same thing but my parents took me to see The Birdhouse for some reason (I was 14) and I was like “OH!”
Not gay myself, but thankfully I did not grow up to be the bigoted person my parents wanted me to be.
it was semi-common in the early 2000s in cities, but not anymore after 2010.
My family was super meat-centric for all holidays except Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Any meal where it’s physically possible to barbecue, we would. And a family barbecue meant hamburgers, hot dogs, chicken, pork steaks, and beef steaks – one of each per person, plus a couple of extras. Sides were German-style slaw and potato salad. Buns were not included, but my grandma would always put a stack of white bread on the table (she was the only person who ever ate it).
When I started dating my husband and took him to a family holiday, he was shocked by the fact that my whole family was eating hamburgers and hot dogs with flatware instead of on buns. And he was actually sad at the lack of side dishes.
When I went to one of his family barbecues, I was sad that there was just one hamburger per person (already on a soggy bun) and a ton of weird casseroles.
Limited joint range. I just thought that’s as far as they went. It still freaks me out slightly when I see people using a normal range, as if they’d just turned their heads through 360° or bent their knees the wrong way.
Taking multiple shits every day, after a friend pointed it out that wasn’t normal I did a lactose test and found out I’ve been lactose intolerant all my life.
Growing up in a house with hoarder parents:
- Having absurd amounts of pretty much anything standing around in the house.
- Parents going through your trash and blaming you for throwing away certain things that were ‘still good to use’ (they weren’t).
Having near constant racing thoughts and always feeling like you have to work on something and if you don’t it makes you anxious. I thought my boyfriend was the alien for being able to not think about anything at all and just chill and do nothing.
Ah good ole ADHD. I have a love hate relationship with mine. We’re on speaking terms.
I like to describe it as being simultaneously bored and overstimulated (
tbf that’s also how I describe ADHD sex)Irony is, that I’m not diagnosed so officially I’m just someone with racing thoughts and a restless soul.
Not diagnosed here too. 99pct sure I’m in the club. For 47 years I’ve been written off as “absent-minded” (yet everyone seeks my advice for major life shit) or “ornery” (more when I was a kid). It’s just incredibly frustrating, it feels like every doc I’ve ever brought it up to basically just dismisses me, taking about how rare adult ADHD actually is.
…this post was just basically supposed to say “yeah I feel that”… So yeah
I’ve been written off as “absent-minded” (yet everyone seeks my advice for major life shit)
I feel this in my bones. My family has always labeled me as “aloof, absent-minded, head in the clouds”… and somehow always seem to forget that I’m the one that shows up or gets called when shit goes sideways
I’ve tried to accept that it’s just an “endearing” label from them, and they don’t actually believe I’m unreliable… because they still (individually) fall back on me whenever they need someone to come through. I’m an “aloof crisis hotline” I guess
being aloof or absent minded isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s just a different type of engagement with the world, would it be nice if we didn’t forget shit the second object permanence stops applying? Yeah, can we work around it, also yeah.
I sometimes randomly end up thinking about nothing but usually I’m in the racing thoughts area. So you’re saying that is something not everybody needs to deal with? Is that how they fall asleep?
it’s weird for me, i have ADHD traits, and also explicitly non ADHD traits, i think it’s probably comorbidity with something else rather than explicitly ADHD. But that’s neurology for you, sometimes it’s clear, sometimes it’s not, sometimes it makes no fucking sense.
I can stare at a wall just fine, but depending on what i’m doing, i need a certain minimum amount of stimulation, and just doing things feels so good.
Not being able to see anything when closing my eyes and not constantly hearing a voice in my head. I have aphantasia and thought people were always seeking metaphorically about seeing things in their head.
I only more recently learnt that people actually hear things as well as in like an internal monologue. To me, the whole thing sounds exhausting.
That democracy would result in truth and national interest instead of Israel/US empire maximal warmongering lies.
We haven’t had democracy since the Dimpled Chad incident
What the fuck is “Israel/US empire” supposed to be?
Israel has significant influence over US empire. Neocon movement is fully overlapped by zionist supremacism and their middle east war plans/actions. US empire does have some independence from Israel over warmongering lies meant to target Russia and China.
But democracy under US empire serves only US empire, which was the big surprise factor.
Physical abuse as a child.
Oh plenty of things:
having respect for others
being honest
helping the needy
fair pay for fair work
honestly considering others’ perspectives
loyalty
Basically every virtue I was ever told was worthy to embody has been used against me as a weapon or a tool
And of the hundreds of people I know IRL less than 10% give any of these internal value or even attempted to put into practice
And here I’ve been a sucker all my life doing the proper social contract thing because I don’t like the way the world is shaping up and getting CONSTANTLY bent over for it
Rinsing off with the shower head after a bath. You don’t take your clothes out of the washer—nor your dishes out of the dishwasher—without doing a rinse cycle first, so why should it be any different for your body?
Dabbing in-and-out instead of wiping front-to-back/back-to-front. You’re literally spreading shit all over your crack if you wipe instead of dab. All you gotta do is spread your cheeks before you sit down, and cleanup will be minimal cause everything will stay near your asshole instead of smearing all over your cheeks.
Wait hold up on the first one. Doesn’t everyone do a quick rinse with the shower after a bath? You’ve been sitting in soapy skin soup!
I wash myself prior to the bath not during it
I like a bubble bath with extra suds.
This might be big brained
I usually don’t. I don’t take a bath if I’m completely covered in dirt. The actual concentration of dirt or skin in the bathwater has to be incredibly low. I take a bath to relax, not to get clean.
People don’t do this? Sitting in dirty water for a period of time doesn’t make me feel any cleaner.
I don’t take a bath to get clean, I take a bath to relax. Showering at the end would undo the relaxed state
Shower first, then bathe & relax.
Also: aphantasia
You have no idea how pissed I was to find out all of you had a fucking superpower, would have been nice to learn this before I wasted 3 years at graphic design
