To be fair I still do these things but only when I’m alone.
Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.
Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it’s a warship I’m trying to bomb.
Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don’t because they’re considered femine or gay.
Doing crime.
Arm bands. I probably read or watched too much fantasy as a kid. For a while I braided leather arm bands and wore them. Mostly they were covered by whatever I was wearing. Then all the Brohs started getting arm band tattoos and it killed it for me. I recently said fuck it, and have a pounded metal arm band and I love it!
I’ve never heard that one before. Kinda get it though. I bought a surplus army jacket and the description said some of them come with Austrian army logo on the shoulder. Well mine did come with one and I like it though I’m somewhat worried someone might see that as cringe but I justify it by the fact that it was already there and I didn’t attach it.
Not about being judged but I was planning on starting my YouTube channel last September. I got hit by a pickup truck on my way to work riding my bike and I haven’t made a video since. In fact I took down all my planned videos and deleted them. I regret that but I wasn’t at all prepared to make and manage a channel when i couldn’t even manage my own bathroom breaks by myself. I was embarrassed and shamed and didn’t think I was capable of making videos anymore.
I’m ready to start again though. I’ve already started by doing some YouTube shorts just to get people a little interested and see what type of content they like engaging with. So far my “practicing piano” shorts are the most popular which was surprising because I’m not great at playing 😅
There’s loads of little daft hobbies I either don’t do at all or hide. I went magnet fishing with a friend once, we found some cool jewellery that I still have and it was fun, so I went home and bought my own kit, I’ve never been though cause I don’t want to be that person doing it alone, or to actually ask anyone to come. Just lives in a box.
Thinking out loud
Practicing DJing. Neither my wife nor daughter are into their quality house music (neither am I, they would argue… 😀) and we have elderly neighbours, so I find it hard to find time to make a real effort to practice, and get self-conscious and disheartened pretty quickly.
My setup is in our living room area, so it’s not very convenient when people are doing just about anything downstairs. Would love to have a bit more space to make mistakes and make a noise without it bothering others.
I’d still be crap at it right enough… ;-)
I’d still be crap at it right enough… ;-)
But wouldn’t it be soooo fun?
Oh, most definitely! :-)
Bone gnawing for me. And I genuinely mean that, I find gnawing on a piece of bone insanely calming for me, but it makes literally everyone I talk to insanely uncomfortable. I love gnawing on bbq ribs, chicken wing bones, pork chop bones, T bones. I love bone marrow and trying to dig for it. Family says it’s bad etiquette, though my partner doesn’t mind.
I always suck chicken wings dry if I’m at home. It’s delicious.
Breaking my very long period of unplanned celibacy.
I think I could get laid, but I’m worried I wouldn’t perform well in bed and that I’d be shamed for it.
Hookers and blow
I think I could get laid, but I’m worried I wouldn’t perform well in bed and that I’d be shamed for it.
You’d be surprised how many people are totally willing to work with you on something like that.
Pretty much that last paragraph of yours.
I don’t care if people see me as childish, weird, or even dumb. I do lots of things that make me seem all of those things.
But that makes me hesitate for some reason.
I did open up about it to some friends I was sure wouldn’t judge, and it helped a lot.
May i ask what kind of clothes you mean?
Skirts, dresses, thigh highs, crop tops, and just generally the womens section of the clothing store. So many items there that are a lot more interesting than what the mens section has to offer.
I really love that some guys look at women’s clothing and think “oh that’s more interesting”
I totally agree. My wardrobe is gigantic cause there are so many things you can do.
More men should just wear whatever, tshirt and jeans is really getting boring, isn’t it.
Yes! I use to be a shirt and jeans person. Then one day I realized jeans made of denim aren’t all that comfy. And I could dress up more! And that actually there’s all kinds of stuff out there I can look good in.
I just need some of that confidence of yours, though. Maybe I’ll do a full dress-up on halloween first, so people don’t ask too much, because my god, do I not have the nerve for questions.
Halloween is the best time to try out dressing up!
That reminds me of men’s haircuts. If you’re sticking to traditional short hair you basically just walk in and go… Okay, how much longer do I want the top than the sides and do I want a fade or a hard line? And that’s pretty much it.
Going for longer hair as a guy just gives you so many more options.
I’m so annoyed by hair… I want to let mine grow so bad, but pollen/dustmite allergies and long hair is an awful combination
It’s definitely got a lot of caveats. For me, it is annoying to need to put my hair up every time I eat, otherwise I eat my hair. But I love the way it feels moving around and if you have any social anxiety it conceals your face when you look down, which can be helpful as an instant hideaway.
But yes, it is definitely many times less manageable than short hair. However… I don’t have bedhead ever!
just be sure not to pull your hair up too tight and you’re good
Feeling my hair in the wind was definitely the best thing about my short-lived long hair adventure, gotta say
Never thought of that before, but you’re right. Way bigger variety of stuff
Right? Women have like twenty different types of tops in all the shapes and cuts imaginable
And colours! So many colours.
The material’s always nicer too.
Seriously, if I wear one more sandpaper hoodie, I’m gonna cry
I have an imp on my shoulder, lot of intrusive thoughts that are only funny to me. I pretend not to have them, and I’d rather just share whatever dog shit pops into my head. But I’m afraid I’d be committed.
Basically everything. Telling a joke that I love. Showing excitement for something I love. Doing my silly voices; especially my batman and girl voice. Taking my shirt off. And so much more. Damn social anxiety and confidence issues.
Having a friend that randomly speaks like batman (or a girl too, but batman) sounds like a lot of fun!
The batman voice makes me break out in a coughing fit but I guess so haha
Being able to do both a batman and a girl voice is pretty damn cool. Silly voices in general are my jam, I love doing Stitch impressions
I used to be able to do a perfect Stitch impression before my voice dropped. Now I just sound like Herbert the Pervert from Family Guy haha
Somehow, I was only able to do it after my voice dropped. No idea how that works
I envy you
I envy you, for the girl voice
Ha, it just takes practice. You’ll get it
I shouldn’t complain since I never really tried. So yeah, practice, I guess. Apparently, you need to keep your larynx up high?
Silly voices are the best, they’ll always enjoyed by your (future) kids/nieces/nephews/etc.
Keep practicing your craft, you’ll find an appreciative audience sooner or later :)
Crime, I don’t like being judged as guilty.
Nothing. I truly do not give a fuck anymore.
The key is to accept there will be social consequences and to ignore them. Once people see the consequences they impose do not affect you, especially after they escalate which they will do at first, they’ll stop and accept your behavior.
Personally, I’d love to give streaming a go, the Twitch kind. I like playing games and I want to share my time with others, but social anxieties say otherwise
As a pretty much nobody streamer man on twitch, not even affiliate yet (I’m so close yet so far), I also struggle with social anxiety but find that streaming has been pretty easy for me. It’s different than actually having to interact with people face to face, so it feels more like talking on a thread than irl interaction.
Of course that’s just my experience and my anxieties may be on a much lower level than yours, but I recommend giving it a go if you think you’d have fun with it!
I used to stream a bit back in the justin.tv days and I would usually only get a handful of viewers but even to this day, it was some of the most unique gaming experiences I had. I used to try and play games that no one was streaming/talking about and a couple of times I actually ended up with the devs watching the stream and those were such great memories.
One time, I played this flash game where you had timed “lives” and the dev was watching (without me knowing) when I ran out of lives. I mentioned I’d be going to play something else while I waited for my lives to come back and he sent me a DM telling me that he would go and remove the timer so I could keep playing if I wanted.
That being said, I haven’t streamed since then and I’m honestly not even sure how I’d start again. I don’t think I’d ever enjoy having a large audience but I definitely enjoyed playing with a few people helping out on what to do next.
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Do what’s best for you.
That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to transition.But the people who really care about you will accept you either way.
You are worthy of love.
I sympathize with that. I work with two ftm trans and even though they pass pretty well you just know not everyone is going to let that go and they probably have to deal with people giving them weird looks, or even obviously looking for too long trying to guess at what gender they are.
And even when you have friends that understand and love you people can misgender accidentally by no malicious fault of their own, and even apologizing and working on that doesn’t make it any less awkward and a call to attention. It’s an every day difficulty in a lot of ways, especially in public.
I see you, you are valid and you are worth it <3
